How clingy is TOO clingy?

We hung out ONCE a month ago. I went to his apartment, we hung out for a few hours. We talked on the phone a few times after, seemed to get along.



Then he started calling everyday. If I was in class or didn't answer, he'd call again. Then he texts-- asking what I was doing, when he can see me.



The second I sign online, he sends a msg. I have at least one miss call from him a day. I stopped answering because he started to annoy me a little. I've sent him msgs online explaining I'm busy with school and work, that I'll contact him when I'm free. But when he sees I sent a message, he calls right away.



I noticed today has me on his top friends on myspace. we hung out ONCE-- I don't want to be mean but I can't deal with it. Is he just too eager or is this a red flag for a creeper?

How clingy is TOO clingy?
Eww too desperate.

Ignore him and hopefully he gets the picture.

If not... you're gonna have to tell him that you need some "space"
Reply:Wow, you must have done something to really impress this guy! I think he just really likes you, and is just going a little overboard. Did he seem really clingy when you hung out? If so, it could be his personality. Also, did he have a recent break up? He could be trying to rush into a relationship because he misses being in a relationship or maybe to make his ex jealous. He's probably just truly interested in you, and wants you to know he is interested. If he is coming on too strong, just sit him down and tell him that you like him, but that you have a really busy schedule to keep up with school and everything, so sometimes you just can't get to the phone, but that all he needs to do is leave you ONE message and you will get back to him when you can. Or you could just say that you don't have many cell phone minutes, so talking on the phone isn't a good idea for you. If you don't want him after you at all, just tell him he isn't your type. It really seems like you need to tell him something though unless you want him to keep calling and messaging nonstop!
Reply:Wow. Sounds like he REALLLLY likes you and hopes something serious from you.



He might be really lonely... sometimes that means it's a red flag, he sounds like someone who would be possessive in a "relationship". If I was you, I would talk to him, say.. you know I like you, you're a nice person but if you want something more, please let me know because the way you contact me and how often you do that really bothers me. Maybe you could tone it down and let me focus on work and school.



And if he doesnt get the point, I would just say, hey... you gotta stop calling/texting me.



Good luck!
Reply:He wants you BADLY!!!!!!! You should talk to him. Hang out with him more but if it isn't fun hanging out with him delete his number off your phone and off your myspace and JUST FORGET ABOUT HIM!!!!!!! When he calls you be like: Excuse me. Who is this? ummmm I don't know who you are so Bye!

Or just ignore him FOREVER and don't talk to him and if he says: Why don't you talk to me anymore?

say i lost my phone or its broken and my computer isn't working.



Good Luck!
Reply:I know ho wu feel. Believe me. Im not trying to patronize you.



I knew a dude named Eugene. He seemed like a normal guy. (this was yrs ago when I was a teenager) I thought he was cute. Seemed like a nice guy. I didnt really want to be his GF or anything. I was just curious about him and I asked a girl at school about him. He started folowing me around school like a puppy. He knew my number but DID NOT call B4 showing up at our house. He showed up one day outta the blue and started tellin me about his "mama's monkey"....."My mama had a monkey but it died...".......I was like....."Oh my crap......he's not right in the head.."......So Eugene followed me around for a while longer. Came over without calling. Got TOO weird and I wasnt sure what to do cuz at the time I wasnt tough enuff to tell people to get lost. So I had to ask a friend of mine to call him and tell h im nicely that it just wasnt oing to work out and I wasnt ready 4 a relationship. This is an old brush off. Old excuse to get rid of people. But it worked 4 me. Eugene was upset and never got over it but if I had more time and more space here I cud tell u in more detail about how WEIRD (!!) this cat was.



just tell him yr not ready for a relatiionship. Tell him yuu have a BF. Tell him the truth if u want. Just tell him u only wanted to be friends and u are feeling uncomfotable or crowded by his actions. If u dont feel comfy telling him- ask a trusted friend to tell him. Just try to tell him in a nice way. If this doesnt work and if he gets TOO outta hand...go to the school authorities...tell yr parents....I hope he STOPS annoying the crap outta you! I have been thru this a few other times too. One littel guy turned out to be very mentally ill and I found out he had killed a lady (hit and run accident) and he was NEVER prosecuted cuz he used his RETARDATION as a fkn excuse! .....good luck hin and dont worry! Youll be okay! xx
Reply:Yes -- kind of a red flag...........you are a very smart girl. I'm serious here -- I can tell by the way you worded your question. Be careful -- he fell "in love" too fast.........could be stalking material...........careful baby (I'm a mom of 2 grown sons and have had a LOT of friends in similar situations) -- not a kid here answering you. You keep your head straight and be careful....
Reply:he prob REALLY likes u. maybe u should try to hang out with him more. that way he wont seem as much as a freak anymore.
Reply:either he just want to tag it or he is a stalker. i would stay away from him and tell him that you just aren't into him. good luck.
Reply:I would say that there is a flag or 2 waving.



That is not even clingy, that is desperate and shows you that if you dated him for a week he would be planing your wedding!



I would be honest with him and let him know you are just not that interested and would appreciate it if he would back off.
Reply:ohhh wwwoooowwwwwww. You need to get a new screen name. I would tell him to leave me alone!!!
Reply:LMAO this one made me laugh.... i know how u feel gurl...ic u hav a C.O.T.L creeper on the loose......ignore him, be very blunt with how u feel .. and no more leading him on cuz something u must hav done has lead him to believe that u like him lol...good luck tho
Reply:I think this is a red flag of a creeper and you should totally delete him from your myspace.
Reply:We are in the same boat, except the guy in question on my side is ringing my close friends too..

I have just been doing what you have been doing, you might want to continue, until he gets the msg, or you could telling him that you have started dating, or have a crush on someone else..

Good luck..
Reply:He's just a boy. It's no big deal, just take his interest as a compliment.
Reply:You should make it obvious that you dont want him attempting to communicate with him as much as he is. If he continues to do so, then he is stupid and doesnt deserve to be talked to lol.
Reply:Good luck with that yo ;P
Reply:I would be careful with this guy he is getting attched to quickly. That would be a red flag for me.
Reply:I think he is just realy obsesed. I used to have a neighbor like that. you need to tell them how you feel about thisnow or he will do that till the day you die!
Reply:Not a creeper, just really desperate and probably never had a gf before. To be honest I was mildly like that with my first girlfriend. I figured it out quickly and now I don't have problems. Avoid him if you must. Just don't be afraid of him.
Reply:Well id say thats annoying and creepy i mean i would say he was eager but if he seems way to how to put it like protective of u id deffinetely say that ud get youself into something annoying and troublesom if it was me after one thing and he was like that even if i were to get into a relationship he'd be breathing down my neck and id break it off and i hate breaking ppls hearts to so id say red flag
Reply:way too clingy

i think u should stop all contact with him

change ur phone #

this is surely a red flag
Reply:yeah the guy is weird .......he might of really liked you ,,,but any guy knows that u shouldnt hound a girl to much even if u like her so i'd say he is aa creeper the way u put it ...
Reply:definatly too clingy, maybe just stop answering him for a long time then he'll probably stop
Reply:Thats clingy for me...tell him to back the **** off. Don't be that harsh about it though.
Reply:I Think He's Too Eager AND a red flag!
Reply:STALKER! sorry, i'd get a restraining order.....
Reply:he could be a psycho creeper, let him know that you want him to back off a little. but be careful because he's seems unstable
Reply:ummmmmmmm i think that qualifies as too clingy . i mean he should have got it by now
Reply:i think he really likes you and just doesnt want to mess things up by not hanging out with you and you finding somebody else.
Reply:I would consider this a red flag. It seems as though he has an obsessive personality. It's not healthy to fixate and only focus and someone you met once.