HELP PLEASE I'm retarded?

Now, i know this is a super elementary question, but I'm 19. I just don't have the best luck with guys bc i get so nervous. my last bf and i were fine but broke up bc he wasnt able to see me bc of his "obligations" Anyways, I'm in this poetry class at me college, and theres this guy i noticed who is cute. Being the creeper i am, i looked him up on facebook and noticed we have TONS in common. How can i casually start talking to him??? should i add him on facebook first??? i'm sorry, i know this is so ridiculous, i'm just clueless. thanks a lot! =]

HELP PLEASE I'm retarded?
Just start up a casual conversation and bring up subjects he likes, don't tell him you stalked him on facebook that will scare him off
Reply:talk to him before you add him on facebook...


that would be kinda creepy
Reply:I think you should sit next to him and randomly talk to him. Get to know him. AFter a while, you will see if you are still interested in him and if he likes you.
Reply:Ask him a question outside of class about your poetry class, like, "What did the professor say about...".


When he answers try and continue the conversation.





If you add him on facebook he might be creeped out.
Reply:im with deena start off with baby steps dont start stalking him on facebook all early go up and introduce yourself
Reply:See if there's going to be a party soon that you might be invited to. Then, see if you can get the person who's hosting the party to invite him. If he's going to be there, add him and one or two other people from the party on Facebook and if he asks you why you added him, just say you're adding people from the party. Then you can start having casual conversations with him. You can always start off with asking him about the party.
Reply:just start talking to him if you get on then go for it
Reply:since you have many things in common, just mention one of those things to him casually, see if he picks up on it. Maybe that will start a conversation. good luck.
Reply:Hmm, if you ever want to speak to him in public face-to-face, I wouldn't recommend adding him as a friend on the internet as the first way he finds out about you. That makes you look like a stalker. When you see him this week, casually say hi to him when you see him in the hallway, caf, etcetera (do it sparingly ~ like once a day, maybe less). Make sure you look really feminine (dress in a way you think he, specifically (not all guys), would like. I know you don't know him that well, but guess anyway. I'm sure he'll take notice.





Then next week, try speaking to him about classwork and suggest study time. If you make it class-related, it doesn't look too much like a date. It gives him a chance to be himself, and not some guy who's trying to impress a girl.





Be yourself, and you'll know how to take it from.





Good luck and remember that men are humans too. They get nervous around women for basically the same reason women get nervous around me. Take your time, and have fun with it.
Reply:Just get naked in front of him and he will notice..................... unless your like fat or something, then you won't want him to notice.
Reply:You really are clueless. It is rude to make a joke about being retarded. It's mean and thoughtless.





But to answer your question. You already stated you have a lot in common. Just ask him a question about something you know he's interested in.
Reply:come up to him and say hi my name is and its nice to meet u talk to u later
Reply:yes just add him on facebook first and that will be a good icebreaker and basically start things up. People are always adding others on facebook just cuz they think they're cute or w/e even if they dont know them. So since u have a class with him i would definetly say add him on facebook and he'll probably send u a message and it'll take off from there GOOD LUCK!
Reply:Well a facebook is for starters. But since hes in your class....why not spark a conversation with him? Be yourself. Don't force it in....but you seem like a sweet girl so of course he'll like you. If it was me....i'd play dumb and start talking to him in class, and then ask if he has a facebook and add him and go from there. I'm sure after talking to him you guys will get a lot closer and most likely he'll like you back. Again why be nervous? Just be yourself. Being nervous isn't going to get you anywhere but not being able to get to know him. Don't THROW yourself at him, start cool and collective (I know its hard since hes your crush)...but I'm sure it'll work out just fine. Thats how I am when I first see somebody in a class that I don't know. I just go up to that person whether its a boy or a girl. And say "Hey whatcha dooo-in?" or whatever he's doing just say something or ask a question (if you can think of one that makes sense). If not what i mostly do to anybody is just go up to him and smile and offer your hand for a handshake and introduce yourself. To make it less noticable do it to at least 2 other people so it doesn't seem that you're aiming at him. But some guys like girls to be straight forward. I don't know...if I would be in the same class as you I'd be able to help depending on how I see the two of your carry yourself. But yeah....start up a conversation with him in class and if you get the heebie jeebies....then just add him on facebook and write on his wall or something. I probably wasn't that much of a help but good luck. Let me know how it turns out!!!
Reply:1.) DO NOT ADD HIM ON FACEBOOK FIRST! Try to strike up conversation with him casually. If he reads his poetry and you enjoy it, compliment him! If he's wearing something nice let him know. Tell him your name and get his this way he knows you could have easily searched him on facebook because you have his full name.





2.) Now you can add him on facebook. This way you can talk to him in an environment that is less high pressure and nerve racking. If you really do have so much in common you will find out after a while.





3.) If you are a stalker. Do not listen to 1 and 2. Just leave the guy alone. Stalkers scare everyone.





-hope this all helps!





-kL
Reply:Don't add him to facebook just yet. If you do that, it'll make it seem like your stalking him before you've even talked to him. Just sit next to him one day, and strike up some random topic like, "its cold outside", or something like that. Once you get a conversation going, mention something about you having a facebook.... if he's even somewhat interested he'll tell you that he has a facebook too, then bingo... now you can add him. Then it's smooth sailing from there.
Reply:i think adding him as a friend on facebook would be the wrong idea.





Try sitting close to him, it's not as hard as you think. You guys have a class together perhaps you could ask him to look over some of your poetry.
Reply:you should just go to him and talk to him, if you dont you should add me or message me on msn im 19 to maybe we could be friends irvinglechuga_50@hotmail.com
Reply:i would start to talk to him then you can add him to your facebook
Reply:Find out if he is in any study groups smaller group maybe you can talk to him. or you could do want my husband did 25yrs ago when i was in the tenth grade ask to borrow a quarter. well i guess today you would ask for 75 cents. but i married him 4 yrs later and we are still going strong almost 25yrs later on our 15yr anver.. he gave me back my quarter.
Reply:definitely add him on facebook FIRST..so when he sees u in person he'll remember ur face.





then go up to him b4/or after class and say something like, "i looked at up fcbk and we have so much it common..iz scary!!![lol]





then as him if yall can exchange #s or sumthin.
Reply:yeah


i think you should add him in facebook..since you guys have the same class


and just message him on facebook or talk to him in class


..hey whats up..kind of deal.





*i have done it lol :)
Reply:if you talk to him at all in class, just add him on facebook first, and then start discussing your similarities with him. he will probably be very flattered by the attention, and it will be a bit of a giveaway that you're interested in him if you found him on facebook. go for it, girl! what do you have to lose?
Reply:I'm not sure how Facebook works but I'd say shoot him a message on Facebook first. Say hi and introduce yourself, say you're in the same class as him. Most guys are flattered by things like this, not creeped out so much. If he responds, talk to him in class then add em on Facebook.
Reply:First off, I am 33.





No, there is nothing creepy checking out someones page online.....





Go ahead and link to him...whats the worst that can happen???!





"Jae Rae" Has a good idea too!!!
Reply:make a plan with a group of friends when you know this guy is going to be available, and invite him to join... this way there are other people there so no one feels uncomfortable...


good luck!!!
Reply:How about sending him a message on facebook saying " hey aren't you in my poetry class?"
Reply:yea i understand that sh*t can be VERY hard...hmmm...i guess sit next to him in class...things have a way of presenting themselves to you...you never know he might have noticed you too...good luck hun
Reply:If he really doesnt know you then go up to him and say


I dont think i know your name. Do you like school so far?
Reply:Don't go to facebook first, just go up to him and ask him about class or something silly like that...if he feels open to chat, then just ask him what he is into (like you don't already know) If it seems like you are hitting it off then ask him to go to lunch/dinner after class some time.
Reply:strike up a short conversation in class, then when you leave, say "oh we should talk more! do you have myspace/facebook?"





tee hee hee works every time